It can be really difficult to have the opinion that something stressful, maybe embarrassing, an issue that seems to be some kind of threat to self or another, or a choice that was ignorant and motivated by a want that seemed like a good thing at the time, or a fear, can lead to a better place if not in life than in mind.
But adversity, problems of my own choices or perhaps others however I may be effected by them, and then learning from those things/situations is what life is really all about, if it is about more than survival and the pursuit of comfort and pleasure and avoidance of suffering and hardship. And it is, learning is evolving, adversity in whatever form is a teacher, at the very least in self control or perhaps tolerance (acceptance) if the situation is beyond our ability to change for the better or get away from. There can be answers to changing what is not wanted in our lives, it might be the solution, and has been for myself, is that changing who I was on an internal level changed my life/reality. For simple things perhaps a makeover or haircut makes a difference, that really only goes so far and has nothing to do with who I am, just how I am viewed, which is not who I am. Who I am is what makes those better choices, when there is a choice that is actually for me, this I believe is true of everyone, if there’s an exception to that I would rather not dwell there, but perhaps there is. The things/issues that are caused by the choices of others, that is for them. That is not saying to give up, or be a doormat, or for example to allow myself/yourself to be abused, exploited or harmed by someone else’s choices, but acceptance of the fact that I/you do not control anyone but myself/yourself is probably the most important reality to understand that will increase peace of mind, and so then a better way of dealing with that other person or group.
I make no claim of being a self help teacher, I am learning and just wanted to express a little bit on this subject. For me, I was a little over two years ago very much at the end of a self destructive path, fortunately I went another way, I got on another path. I have learned a few things from experience and many from others who figured things out and shared their insight and wisdom. Below I will link a few resources that have been of benefit for me, if you are interested, whoever you are.
https://dailystoic.com/
There is a poem that I was fortunate to come across (you can find it in the RedFrost channel or elsewhere) called “If” by Rudyard Kipling, I find it of great inspiration, you might too.
I wish you well, I wish you freedom. I am not at the end of my journey or perhaps you could call it adversity training, but fortunately I have learned a few things, it’s a process, not an event.
And yes, my WordPress skills or lack of are a process 